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Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Toddler Temper Tantrums

When children reach the age of one they start to be more aware of their emotions. They know they want things but when they are not in control your toddler will start to throw temper tantrums. I don’t believe there is only one explanation for any of this because once your child hits their toddler stage so much development is going on. They have emotions and feelings but just cannot talk and express these feelings yet. They want to feel in control and what better way to let mommy know they are mad but by throwing a temper tantrum. Just know that this is normal to your child’s development.
I am writing this article right now as my 19 month old toddler is having a temper tantrum. It started over a bottle of Children’s Motrin. He wanted it and I didn’t want to give it to him….Do you blame me. He saw it while he was in the bathtub and even went as far as trying to drown himself. I took him out and he threw himself to the floor, screaming and crying. I went to make him dinner and he got mad and threw it all on the floor, still having the same tantrum from the medicine bottle. How in the world am I supposed to keep my sanity when my most of the time calm and sweet toddler is acting like this? I started looking things up on the web and found lots of advice online and even some expert advice on tantrums in 2 year olds and preschoolers. I did not find much on a one year old having temper tantrums. Here is a summary of what I collected on toddler temper tantrums.

  • It is best to ignore your toddler while they are acting like this. Do not give into the situation or you will not be consistent. Yes. Consistent. Consistency is one of the biggest things you must learn to do while your child is young to efficiently discipline them.

  • Comforting your toddler while they are having a tantrum may actually make the toddler’s temper tantrum worse. They are already mad and testing you. The best thing to do is ignore them if they are not getting their way. Reaction out of you is what they want. It may make you feel bad that they are so upset with you, but it will be for the best in the long run.

  • Keep a close eye on your toddler. For example in my situation, my son will use objects to throw and throw himself down. Make sure there is not anything around your toddler during a temper tantrum that can harm them.

  • Sometimes it is wise to remove the toddler out of the situation. If you are outside, move them in, or vice versa. If you are in public then you may want to take them back to the car.

  • Always remember to STAY CALM during your child’s temper tantrum. Remember that this is part of their normal development and like everything else it will pass and your child will grow into a independent normal toddler!
Feel free to post your suggestions on this! Every little bit helps.

2 Comments:

Leah has started with the tantrum now too. The most recent was at Tim's sisters when I wouldn't let her out of the screened porch to roam around aimlessly by the pool. She's getting waaaay too independent and brave for my taste!

I miss you!!!! I've been so f-in busy...I'll have to sign on Yahoo today if I get time after I finish up my work.
Come check out my blog. I posted video today of my toddler having a tantrum. Hers was over iced tea.

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