Mommy Needs To Vent
Friday, April 06, 2007
Getting Kids Tested
Why is it people look down on parents who get their kids tested for psychological things? I know that it sucks to put your kids on pills at a young age. Don't people think that those parents feel guilty enough? I don't see what the big deal is. I am not stupid. I know that these things are over diagnosed but who is to tell if something is wrong with MY child? Everyone that says all little boys act the same way can kiss my butt, okay? That's nice that all little boys are wild and crazy, but until you have your little boy next to mine, don't judge. You don't know if mine might be a little worse. Sigh.
I also know the difference between a spoiled child and one that is not. It's one thing to act that way if you are extemely spoiled. I am not saying people shouldn't spoil your children, because you should. I don't spoil mine, but I think that kids SHOULD be spoiled. I just don't have the patience for that. My child is not spoiled, he is far from spoiled. He is a good kid, his problem is beyond behavior and knowing right from wrong. His problem is more that he is impulsive, more impulsive than children his age should be. He is hyper and has problems in school. What am I supposed to do? Ignore his problems and let him get in trouble everyday in school?
So what is the deal here people? I want to know from one parent to another in the blog world. What is the problem with going to get your kids tested for things such as ADHD? Or ADD? Or even Autism? If a parent thinks something is wrong, then why not be a little more understanding? What ever happened to parents know best?
Sorry about all this venting. I will go into the actual reason for all this in my next post!
posted by Tasha, 4/06/2007 01:07:00 PM
Tasha I am finding you and I have have more and more in common. First of all I am tall myself - 5'10", I was a stay at home mom for 17 years. Actually home schooled one son for a year to get him caught up. My youngest, who is now 15, was having a problem in school. He is a good kid and not hyper, but could not keep his attention on one thing to save his life. Lots of other things I won't go into detail about here, but I cried when I made the decision to put him on medication. But I had to do what was best for him, despite my thoughts on ADHD and ADD. He did improve and took the medicine for 3-4 yrs. This is his first year off of it and he is doing ok. Not great, but ok. He didn't want to take the medicine anymore and I don't know if you out grow ADD or if he is just getting old enough to be more aware of it and working hard himself to do what needs to be done. Anyway, I understand where your coming from. No matter what anyone says, you do what you think is best for your son!
Also, you posted on my blog that you have to watch something for your English class. I am about to go back to school. 45 yr old and going back to school...what am I thinking?!?! Going for a sonarology degree. Ultra sound technician.
Good luck to you and I'm adding you to my blog list!
Sounds like you're having a tough time. My sister has a son with ADHD and has been on medication for years. He's now also going through anxiety issues regarding school (started high school this year). He is now also on anti-anxiety medication and sees a psychologist regularly (I think it's weekly at the moment).
My sister had intensive testing done and it's so obvious that the medication helps. Still she gets asked alllll the time if he isn't just a bit of a 'naughty' kid (and therefore doesn't really need the drugs).
If you're going through this, then *hugs* to you. From what she's said, it's not easy.
You should definitely do what you think is best for your son. I'm surprised that anyone (especially a mother) would think it's BAD to get your child tested. It's good that you are aware and want the best for your son. What kind of person would not want that? It just doesn't make sense. Do what you can. Find out what you can. Get him tested to find out if something is wrong and go from there. Best of luck to you!
I agree with you 100%. The parent knows best. i have a good friend who struggled with this. She really didn't want to have her son on drugs, but in the end, it's made a difference.
Who is judging you? When will it end for you? My gosh. You do what you have to for your kids. There is NOTHING wrong with ruling things out and/or helping them however they need help!!!!!!