Mommy Needs To Vent

I know it's a little late, but here are some pics from the storms I took on April 13th here in Dallas- Fort Worth. Some pics are damage from tornadoes and some are just wind damage. Sorry friends, that is another thing many don't know about me. I am obsessed with storms. Jim Cantore is one of my biggest idols LOL.










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Thursday is National "Take Your Child to Work Day." Does anyone out there actually do that? LOL. I am not laughing at it really. I just have never known anyone that actually does it. So I need some advice, I want to ask my husband if he is going to take his son, because the school sent home a letter about it. Is it wrong for me to ask? He might think I am crazy. Our six year old go to work with him? Do bosses let that happen? As you can see, I don't have much experience with this.

I don't think letting him stay home with his mom for a day is a great idea either. I mean this IS my work, right? Being a "Homemaker." Do you think I can get away with that?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I know some may get tired of my videos of Lost but it's all I can think about on Thursdays and Fridays. Thank you Lost for not letting me get anything done for two days after I watch you!

I want to start off saying

God Bless Virginia Tech.

I don't think I need to say anything else for today about that:(

Here are some pics from Easter that I am just getting around to posting! Yes! My older one had a black eye!

Thank you friends for your positive comments in my last post. I was really venting there and didn't really discuss much. This is a long post so be prepared:)

We have always thought my older son had some sort of hyperactivity problem. His behavior is very good, but he is very impulsive. It is like he doesn't think before he does or says anything. He talks twenty four hours a day, and I know all little boys talk a lot. They should not talk all the time though. So when he started kindergarten we started having problems with him in class. He wasn't really being bad, just disruptive. He will not stop talking, even when the teacher is trying to teach. I believe what she says, because she teaches a class of twenty two students and my son is the only one standing out.

Last November we decided to have him tested. They diagnosed him with having one of three forms of ADHD. He has the Hyperactivity Impulse problem. Testing was done by one of THE BEST psychologists in the DFW area. We didn't just bring him to some crappy clinic. After the testing we had several choices on what to do about what they diagnosed. We could put him in therapy to help him control his impulses or we could go to a psychiatrist and have him on medication. We chose the therapy because I am not thrilled on putting my child on medication.

Meanwhile, in school we were finding out more about him. He is very intelligent, which of course I already knew. He wants to know everything. I had a conference with his teacher a couple of days ago and I have to say I am pretty proud of him. Although he still has problems with talking and getting in trouble. He seems to whiz through his work. For example, his teacher will give him an assignment and he will finish long before any of the other students. So fast that often his teacher will think, "there is no way he could possibly be done." When she looks at it, it is very neat and in detail. He can read long words and write with correct punctuation. The thing is, he flies through his work. If he does that well so quickly, imagine if he only took time with it. It may have something to do with the fact that he is always ready to do something else. I also found out that he is ranked high in his class, or something on those terms. They are going to put him in advanced classes next year, but they will have to take a test the first week of school to see if they belong in there. His teacher thinks he will not have a problem since he is academically so strong for his age. His problem will be with disrupting class. So how in the world can he have ADHD right?

About two weeks ago, his therapist recommended we take him to a psychiatrist and try the meds. She didn't think therapy was doing anything for him and this was the route I didn't want to take. So I started him on them last week, I haven't seen a major difference, but these aren't supposed to control his hyperactivity, it's to control his impulses, so it may not be too visual. The pills are supposed to make him think about things before he does them, or put more thought into what he does.

The reason I am a little upset, is because people are so judgmental. You KNOW who I am talking about! Right?? I am not going to name any names or point out people because this is a public blog. I mean, first off parents have problems with other parents always looking for something wrong with their kids. I don't want anything to be wrong with mine! At the same time I want to help them. Also, people say that ADHD is soooo over diagnosed, but what if your child really does have it? They say it is genetic, so it's pretty possible my boy has it. In my family, I have several family members with it and they had it bad. My husband's brother didn't get diagnosed until he failed out of first grade. I am just fed up with friends and family knowing what is going on and having negative thoughts. They say that he is fine. Maybe he is, so I don't see how this will hurt. Yes. I am confused too. I am just so confused.

Okay, so let me cut it off here...I do have some questions for those with school age children.

Next year in first grade, my son will have a homeroom and start switching classes. Is this NORMAL? I don't remember changing different classes until like sixth grade!

If you have ADHD, do you have problems learning, because he is really smart for his age. SO is it possible this diagnosis could be completely wrong?

Thanks everyone for listening!

Why is it people look down on parents who get their kids tested for psychological things? I know that it sucks to put your kids on pills at a young age. Don't people think that those parents feel guilty enough? I don't see what the big deal is. I am not stupid. I know that these things are over diagnosed but who is to tell if something is wrong with MY child? Everyone that says all little boys act the same way can kiss my butt, okay? That's nice that all little boys are wild and crazy, but until you have your little boy next to mine, don't judge. You don't know if mine might be a little worse. Sigh.
I also know the difference between a spoiled child and one that is not. It's one thing to act that way if you are extemely spoiled. I am not saying people shouldn't spoil your children, because you should. I don't spoil mine, but I think that kids SHOULD be spoiled. I just don't have the patience for that. My child is not spoiled, he is far from spoiled. He is a good kid, his problem is beyond behavior and knowing right from wrong. His problem is more that he is impulsive, more impulsive than children his age should be. He is hyper and has problems in school. What am I supposed to do? Ignore his problems and let him get in trouble everyday in school?
So what is the deal here people? I want to know from one parent to another in the blog world. What is the problem with going to get your kids tested for things such as ADHD? Or ADD? Or even Autism? If a parent thinks something is wrong, then why not be a little more understanding? What ever happened to parents know best?

Sorry about all this venting. I will go into the actual reason for all this in my next post!