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Monday, August 29, 2005

Quiet Time


We all know adults encounter stress, but did you know playing and growing actually can stress your baby out also?  You can actually help your baby relax as he encounters the stresses of the world by giving him some quiet time.
     You can begin by finding a quiet place in your home.  Play some quiet music or hum to your baby using syllables.  Feel free to also give your baby a massage at the same time. Whatever you do, play quietly.  Watch the ceiling fan or just help your baby gaze out a window.  It is alright for your baby to babble and make noise during your quiet time.  If he gets fussy, try to find another way to share quiet time, such as rocking or walking around the room.
     My son and I share quiet time several times a day.  I usually will lay him down before I change him into a new outfit and massage his feet and back.  Then I will put his clothes on and we will just sit on the floor in his room.  He likes to look at the things on his wall.  His room is decorated in John Lennon and he loves to look at all the animals.
     Everyone has a different approach to quiet time.  Babies need it just like adults.  Think about how stressed out we can be.  Our world is a never ending challenge for a baby with so much to see and learn.  Sometimes as a result our babies can become restless and frustrated.  Next time your baby seems cranky, try giving him some of this quiet time to ease some of this stress.

By:  Natasha Browning

Friday, August 26, 2005

Another Boring Night




Well I just celebrated my anniversay not long ago. I have to say, I feel old being a SAHM with two children. I got all dressed up that night to go out. I have to say this is the best picture I have ever seen of myself. It's amazing what make up can do!
Peyton finally started crawling. Anyone with kids knows that it is on now! Time for running around after baby. I guess that's all! Everyone have a great night!

Wednesday, August 24, 2005

BUYING A CAR READ THIS!

I finally know what it is like to be screwed over by a car dealership. Remember, I am young. This is only my second time buying a car. I have learned my lesson. (now that my payments are $100.00 more than what I thought they would be) I don’t even have a job right now. I don’t understand how they get away with it. Purchasing a 20,000 vehicle is a big step. They just conveniently lose papers and act like you are an idiot.
You should have heard those people laughing at me and hanging up the phone. They wouldn’t even discuss it. It all came down to some add-ons that I have now found out came with the car anyway. They charged me $500.00 to have keyless entry when the car already had it to begin with. Some major tips:
  • DO NOT DRIVE OFF THE LOT WITHOUT A CONTRACT. Sounds like something I should have known in the first place. The finance guy lied and said that he would draw up a contract and we needed to go in and sign it in the next couple of days. (I had 2 kids with me and it was now 11:30 at nite) So I just figured that it would be taken care of. Once you drive off the lot, the deal is done.

  • DO NOT GET THE ADD ONS they make sound so great. Come to find out they were just jacking up the price. I have read so many articles on the internet that say all most of that is crap. This is the thing…we agreed to all that, signed the contract, and then decided we didn’t want that payment, so we signed a paper saying we wanted it cancelled.
OUR EXACT WORDS: “We do not want this car with a payment that high.”
But “no” they didn’t say anything like, well its too late.
  • DON’T CALL THE DEALERSHIP after you realized what happened. They will laugh in your face and make you cry. They could careless what they did when I talked to them and I was bawling my eyes out like a baby. They already got their money from the bank. They didn’t care about me. They don’t even care about customer satisfaction because most of them won’t be working their in 5 years.
If any of this sounds wrong, let me know so I can get out of this. At this moment, I still don’t have a contract. Anyone that lives in Arlington, Texas-don’t buy a car from Vandergriff Honda!

Just had to vent….

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Sunday, August 21, 2005

Warning: This is a Life or Death Situation

In the time it takes to purchase a gallon of milk or a pack of cigarettes, a hot car can turn into a death trap for a child. I live in Texas and we are under a heat advisory today. Yesterday a 3-year old died of being trapped in a hot car. This child was not left behind, but wandered out of a building, only to trap herself in the family car. The awful thing is, at least 3 children die every year as a result of this, where I live alone.

You are probably thinking who could ever do that? I am a stay at home mom and my job is to take care of my children. Their are many parents in this country now that have so much going on that it is easy for a child to get lost in the scatter. I don't believe these parent s really do it on purpose, but they do have to suffer the consequences.

The most obvious is the child dying or having brain damage. Could you really live with yourself knowing this could have been prevented? If the child dies, you could be charged with involuntary manslaughter or child endangerment.

Facts:

  • In the summer months, the temperature in a parked car and reach above 120 degrees in as little as 10 minutes.
  • Heat exhaustion can occur at temps above 90 degrees and heat stroke can occur when temps rise above 105 degrees.

Tips:

  • If you see a child in a hot car alone, call 911 immediately-you're call can be the difference between life and death.
  • Never leave a child in an unattended car, even with the windows rolled down.
  • Check and make sure all the children leave the vehicle when you reach a destination.
  • Make sure unoccupied cars are locked, so that children don't become trapped.

Remember parents, our children depend on us to keep them safe. Please watch out for other children in cars also. Hot cars and children is a life and death situation.

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Thursday, August 18, 2005

Themed Birthday Parties On A Budget

It seems like every year around my sons birthday, I just can't seem to come up with a lot of money. Not only do you have to buy them presents, but you want to make sure they have a great party at the same time. I am one for making up a party with some type of theme. Every year my son has some new hobby or character that he totally adores. One was Spiderman and last year it was Hot Wheels. So how do you do it if you don't have much?
What most parents think is that they have to have this extrodinary party. Think about it. Your child is young, they are not going to judge it. They won't remember this party, only by pictures. All that really matters to them is the love you put into setting it up for them and the fun they had while it was going on. It doesn't take a lot to make your child happy.
Just buy a couple of themed items. Here are some themed items to buy:

  • HAPPY BIRTHDAY BANNER
  • 1 OR 2 BALLOONS
  • 1 OR 2 CENTER PIECES
  • GOODIE BAGS
  • MOST IMPORTANT, THE CAKE

That is all you will need. After that everything else can just be color coordinated.

  • PLATES/NAPKINS/FORKS,ECT.
  • STREAMERS
  • SOLID COLOR BALLOONS
  • FAVORS FOR INSIDE THE GOODIE BAGS
  • TABLECLOTH
  • INSTEAD OF ORDERING PIZZA FOR 20 GUESTS, MAKE HOTDOGS.

Trust me, nobody will even notice how everything is not themed, as long as the color matches. You can even print coloring pages coordinating with the theme from online. A couple of good games and you just had a Birthday Bash!

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Wednesday, August 17, 2005

When Babies Try New Food

All parents get worried when their child doesn't want to try a new food. They wonder what is right and what is wrong.
My eight month old son started eating broccoli today, and he wasn't the happiest baby on the block. It was fun getting that green gunk out of my hair. I started thinking about how I got my first son to eat so well. He is an excellent eater and is not picky whatsoever. He will eat anything you put in front of him unless it has hot sauce on it (go figure).
Then I think about some of the other children I know that won't even look at anything besides chicken nuggets. I am not a psychologist, simply a mother with two children. I also have experience with the children that used to come to my daycare. Here are some of the dos and donts for parents that really want healthy eaters.
  • Try the old trick that we all know. The airplane-zooming-into-the-mouth trick. You can be as silly and dramatic as you would like. You should get at least a couple of spoonfuls in.
  • Give some bait. Try giving a spoonful of something they love. Make them want more and then stick that yucky stuff in their mouth. They won't know what hit'em! Or try putting that irresistible taste on top of the food.
  • Let your baby play with it. Put a spoonful on the highchair. It is a baby's nature to somehow get some of it in their mouth.

If your baby doesn't want it, wait a little while. YOU ARE NOT GOING TO STARVE YOUR BABY. All parents feel that they will starve them if they don't feed them. When your baby is hungry, he/she will eat. That is a proven fact, even with adults. Trust me on this one.

Just remember this- you as a parent are in charge of teaching your child healthy eating habits, and no matter how upsetting it is, it is best for them in the long run. Don't give into them and don't give up. Teach them to eat vegetables and fruits. Malnutrition leads to a variety of complications. Remember that, and it will come natural to you.

Tuesday, August 16, 2005

Growing Up Too Fast



Yesterday was Tyler's first day of Pre-K. It was such an emotional day. I couldn't believe how my eyes filled with tears when I dropped him off. Were they tears or joy? Was I proud? Or was I just stunned at how quick the time is passing. It was just yesterday that I brought home this tiny little bundle. He could barely open his tiny little eyes. I remember that first year. He was born in November and it was like a story from the bible at Christmas time. My favorite time of year and now it was the best Christmas I had ever had at that point. I remember that first smile in January. All that time I didn't even look into the future and really see this day coming.
Now here he is running to his classroom to greet his new teacher. He doesn't even care that he is leaving me as long as he can interact with other children. As long as he is the happiest boy in the world, I don't even care.
Everyone told me to enjoy him when he was younger because he would be his own person before I knew it. I will remember this day while my 8 month old is still so young. The time seems to fly by more with him. Before I know it they will be married, have children, and I will be feeling this way about my grandchildren.
Good Luck, Tyler. Have a great day at school! Mommy will be back to pick you up later.

Friday, August 12, 2005

A Mistake Worth Making

At eighteen it is easy to make mistakes. It is sorta funny, before that age everyone is saying that you are growing up too fast. When you get to that age, you just don't want to grow up. I was in my first semester of college, but even so, my friends and partying were my first priority. I was a pretty bad teenager, finding ways to get myself into trouble every day. Then one day I made a mistake that changed everything. At the time it was the biggest burden of my life, but on a cold November night, I realized that it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.. It was 2:15 am and after nine months of stress and doubt, I was about to become a mother. There was no turning back now.
When I first found out I was pregnant, it was terrible. I couldn't sleep. What was I supposed to tell my mother? What was I supposed to do? Should I give him up for adoption or have an abortion? Then there was the father. What was I supposed to tell him? We had been dating for a year, but I was eighteen and didn't even take our relationship seriously. We had no plans for the future. I knew he would not be happy! All I wanted to do is wake up and realize that this was all just a nightmare and that my life would go right back into place.
After deciding that an abortion was out of the question...I told my mother. After a week I told the baby's father. No matter how much support they gave me, there was still doubt. I was still just a kid myself. How was I going to raise one? I still lived with my mother. I didn't have a job. I wasn't married. I just did not want the resposibility of raising a child. All my dreams and hopes were gone. I was a little frustrated with myself. How could anybody ever feel this way about a small innocent baby growing inside them? Finally, I came to the conclusion that I was going to at least try. I knew I loved children and its not that I just couldn't bear the thought of having one of my own, I just wasn't ready.
After finding out I was having a boy, I became very anxious. All those feelings were almost completely diminished. I just still did not know how I was going to take care of him.
Finally, the time came and my water broke. Labor was just like it was described to me. The worst pain I had ever come across. Was it ever going to end? I was not allowed to take any drugs and had him completely natural because his heartbeat had dropped very low. I guess this was God's way of punishing me, or was it his way of saying if I could get though this, I can get through anything? It is so funny that God made labor the worst pain a woman can go thru, and yet it is the one pain so easily forgotten. When it was over, I didn't even remember any of it.
"Does he have a name?" the doctor asked? It took me a moment to realize what had just happened. "Tyler," I finally replied. They handed me my little boy. He tried to open his tiny eyes, but the lights were too bright, so I shaded them with my hand. He opened them and looked right into my eyes, and I swore I heard the words, "Thank You." My heart melted as my eyes filled with tears of joy and relief. I knew at that moment that no matter what, everything was going to be ok.
I was blessed that November night. All the waiting and fear was gone. All my doubts of raising him had fallen into place. Now, if I start having any doubts, I strive to work harder because I have a good reason too. He has made me grow into a woman with patience and responsibility, things I didn't have five years ago. He was definitely not a mistake. I know how wrong I was to have never imagined my life with Tyler, and now I couldn't dream of going a second never knowing how my life would be without that piece of my heart.

Wednesday, August 10, 2005

Loving Mom and Future Writer



My name is Natasha Browning and I am a stay at home mom. I have two children that are my life. Tyler who is 4 and Peyton who just turned 8 months. I have a wonderful husband that is very supportive and has been putting up with me for 6 years. We live in Arlington Texas, but I grew up in Hertford, North Carolina. We moved to Texas looking for opportunity, and since then I have been working out of my home. Go figure!

If anybody has any qestions regarding in home child care, I can help out. I started about 4 years ago and I have had ups and downs. For the most part, if you love children this is a great opportunity for you to make money and stay home. At one point, I was banking $900.00 a week. I have many hints and secrets on being successful in this business. Yes, there are some secrets, some that I can not even write about.

Now, I am giving this business up to become a Freelance Writer. I am taking some courses on it and hope that it is successful as well. I know I have to work hard, just like when I was doing childcare. There are no easy ways to make money. You have to work at it.

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